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How IVF saved our relationship

When I met my partner, I was over-the-moon to realize he had the same goals to start a family and have children. I had it all figured out in the back of my mind. This was the man who I wanted to marry and spend the rest of my life with. Raising children with, and in future, enjoying our grandchildren. Everything went according to the plan. He popped the big question, ‘Will you marry me?” I was in awe, walking on cloud nine. How could I not shout “Yes” from the rooftop?

Soon after we married, we set in motion for our ultimate dream. To have a baby of our very own. At first, it was all fun and games, living in the moment- no need to rush. Why should we? After all, we had known that it would take roughly six months for a healthy, fertile couple to conceive.

As the time drew nearer to my expected period, I waited with much anticipation. Having a very erratic monthly cycle, it was quite normal for my menstruation to be delayed by a few days. Excited, I would take the test. Hoping and praying for at least a faint line to put my mind at ease. Blank. That was it. No line whatsoever. I brushed it off; after all, it had not yet been six months.

This went on for nearly three years. As the excitement started to fade so did our relationship. Having sex became nothing but a chore, a means to fall pregnant. Finding my heart and mind set only on conception, I quickly started to emotionally fade away and withdraw from my husband. He soon realized something was seriously wrong. The negativity was slowly swallowing me completely, consuming my life and, most of all, my marriage. Obsessing over the fact that maybe there was something wrong with me, I found myself ripping apart every home pregnancy test. Observing it in the natural light, taking photos and heightening the contrast, I would tell myself and my husband that maybe, just maybe, there was a very faint line. My husband confirmed my disappointment. There was nothing. Breaking down, I begged him to make us an appointment with a fertility specialist. He agreed. After an extensive amount of time and various tests, the news came which shattered us. Infertility. I was the reason for not able to conceive.

How IVF improved our relationship

Seeing the agony in my husband’s eyes, I knew I had deprived him of the only thing he had ever wanted, and that was children. Over the months my husband started to withdraw from me. He was becoming less physically intimate with me and made excuses to work late. I could feel his resentment towards me growing daily. The regret of choosing me as his wife. With no other options left, I was prepared to seek out alternative options. If we were not able to conceive naturally, then I would make it my mission to find a way to conceive with the help of medical science. After making an appointment to discuss further options, I was pleased to inform my husband that I was willing to partake in IVF treatment. Although apprehensive in the beginning, he agreed. After all, our relationship was in such a rocky place; we had nothing left to lose. I was happy to announce that after a few months of treatment and IVF, I got pregnant. With hope reignited in me, I had given birth to our amazing, miracle baby. Not only was I able to bear my husband’s children, but we were also, later on, able to, through the help of additional IVF has yet another baby.

How infertile couples reinforce their vows and commitments with the help of science.

The bonds of our relationship have grown stronger than ever. My husband no longer resents me. On the contrary, we are more in love than ever before. With the help of science, I was able to become the mother I had always dreamed of. IVF saved our relationship, and I truly believe, it can help save many others.

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